When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards and just do what you know is right?
Jostlyn: I already do that with my religion. But in life in general.. sometimes I don't "know" what is the right thing to do.. sometimes the "right" thing to do is calculate risk and reward and that is your answer.
Carson: I already do that. I think this is a dumb question.
When you are 80-years-old, what will matter to you the most? Jostlyn: God and my family. No Brainer. My husband, my children, my grandchildren. My relationships with them. How I've treated them. Preparing to leave this life and enter into the next (obviously doing that all along in my life, but I think as I get older it will become more of a reality to me). Carson: My religion and my wife, my family, my kids. Money will not mean anything.
Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of? Jostlyn: hmm. I don't know? I mean, I got rid of a lot of stuff last weekend and gave it to the D.I. ;) But in all honesty, I think I'm pretty good with everything in my life? Carson: Yes.
What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life? Jostlyn: I'll answer all. I would regret not doing photography. Sometimes I have my days where I just want to quit. I get overwhelmed and I need to learn to balance my life better. I also get overwhelmed with the fact there's still so much I have to learn to get to where I want to be.. I feel so far away from my goal sometimes. BUT, at the same time, it's something that makes me so happy, and when I can make someone else happy because of this talent, THAT'S when it's worth it to me. That's when it's worth it at the end of the day. I would regret not fully being myself. For a while I would "play the game" but now.. if you like me for who I am, that's awesome. If you don't, then that's ok too. I understand I won't be liked by everyone, and that's a GOOD thing. That means I have things I stand for, believe in, and my own personality. I'm not going to mold to something else based on who I'm with. This is me. Take it or leave it. I would regret not having the gospel of Jesus Christ in my life. There have been times when I haven't been the most active member and I don't like who I am when I'm not strong in the gospel. I can't imagine what it would be like if I didn't have it at all in my life. Carson: I would regret it if I came into this planet as a woman. Definitely would regret that like... 100 times over. But in all honesty, I would regret not marrying Jostlyn. She turned me into the man I am today and thankfully thats a really really good thing. I was kinda a train wreck before her and I would be an even worse train wreck had I passed her up. ^^ awww... isn't he the sweetest?
If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow this person to be your friend?
Jostlyn: I think I go through periods of making myself better, and periods of saying I'm awesome.. so I don't know if I would be best friends with myself because the times when I'm "making myself better" I'm kind of super negative.
Carson: I'm pretty nice to myself, so I would let him be my friend forever.
Which activities make you lose track of time?
Jostlyn: Spending time with my husband. It goes by too fast!
Carson: Video games. Lots and lots of video games.
What does your joy look like today? Jostlyn: Not having to go to the doctor. I thought I was going into a sinus infection, but I woke up feeling better today... so I canceled the appt. and I'm going to wait it out and see if I get better on my own :) Carson: Looks like she's getting ready! Is it possible to lie without saying a word? Jostlyn: Yes. Definitely. Carson: Withholding information when the truth should be told is lying just as much as making up something that didn't happen.
Do you celebrate the things you do have? Jostlyn: I think I could be better about that. I think I'm always trying to improve. I do have happy dances about things, but after a while I look for change. Materialistic stuff. Carson: Probably not enough. I'm always looking for the latest and greatest when it comes to technology and the monetary things we can have. That is something that is probably my downfall in a lot of ways. When it comes to my family, dogs and things I hold dear to my heart then yes. I celebrate them more than anything and I understand I would be nothing without them. The monetary things cease to matter. What is the difference between living and existing? Jostlyn: Existing is going through the motions and going day by day, not really putting meaning behind what you're doing with your life. Living is doing it with meaning. Enjoying each day with purpose. Carson: Living is when you put your all into life and try to make something of yourself. Existing is just being somewhere with no purpose. If not now, then when? Jostlyn: I think now. Why not now? Carson: Probably tomorrow... But most likely in a week. Or the week after that if I have time. Have you done anything lately worth remembering? Jostlyn: haha I started watching Dragonball Z Abridged on Youtube. It's the funniest thing ever! I have never watched the original series, that wasn't my scene when I was younger, but the abridged version still goes by the storyline, but they do voice-overs and make the characters say a bunch of funny lines and it's hilarious. And let's face it, Carson thinks I'm the bomb. com Carson: I got my wife hooked on Dragonball Z. Pretty much the funniest occurrence I have ever experienced is watching her slowly warm up to the show where she now actively quotes and enjoys it.
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? Jostlyn: Uh.... maybe go out in public with no makeup and hair undone more often. I mean, I do that a lot, but more often. Who gets ready these days? Carson: I'm a pretty open person about what I believe and who I am. I doubt I would change anything because I don't care if I'm judged for the things I love.
Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength? Jostlyn: I think crying is weakness leaving the body. But the act of crying is weakness. Does that make sense? It takes a strong person to allow themselves to cry, because they are making themselves more vulnerable for those moments, but in the end, they feel better, stronger, and a new person afterwards. I always feel better after a good cry. So... both?
Carson: The only strength crying portrays is spiritual strength. When you cry because someone yelled at you or because you got a paper cut does not mean you're strong. That is weakness. But when you cry because you are touched by a situation, story, or person. Then there is something special in that.
What can you do today that you were not capable of a year ago? Jostlyn: I can now do photography full time with no day job in the way. I can now shoot a film session properly and have it look great and in focus. uh... I can now put my hair in a bun! Carson: I can invest my time in more than a 9 to 5 job and school.
What life lesson did you learn the hard way? Jostlyn: Must I pick just one? ;) I think.. probably lying.
Carson: Don't lie
What do you wish you spent more time doing five years ago?
Jostlyn: Age 17? Worrying less what people thought. I think I did a pretty good job, but I wish I worried even LESS. I wish I had been more confident in myself. I wish I had had a higher self esteem back then. I wish I would have spent my senior year having more fun.
Carson: Getting my college degree in high school so I didn't have to do it after. Impressing my future wife, Jostlyn :)
Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know?
Jostlyn: I think if I don't know enough of the given situation, I have total anxiety. So I'm always asking questions.
Carson: I'm always asking questions because I'll never know enough.
Who do you love and what are you doing about it?
Jostlyn: My husband. I rub his back sometimes while he plays video games... I'm trying to make dinner more often. His love language is service oriented things, so he loves it when I make meals.. he kisses the ground I walk on if I make him a sandwich.
Carson: My wife, and I'm cleaning the house ;)
What’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree?
Jostlyn: That... girls and guys can just be friends!